By Jenny Voelker
My mom is turning 80 this year. And 40, years after she raised four
children of her own, she is rethinking how to be a good parent.
“Most important thing is to love him,” she says. The “him” being my
son, her youngest grandson. “Hug him a lot. Tell him he’s great. Never,
ever compare him to his younger sister. Encourage him all the time.”
“But mom,” I say, hesitating slightly and then deciding to press on.
“You’re telling me to do the opposite of what you did with me.”
“True,” she admits softly. I am surprised. Rarely if ever has mom
admitted any kind of fault or change of heart. “But in thinking about it
more, that is how you love a child.”